Avoidance and Awareness
I could list a multitude of do’s and don’ts regarding self defence, most of which are common sense.
However, they are of no use to you whatsoever if all you do is read them without understanding them and adhering to them.
I can not stress enough that it is vitally important to follow these guidelines.
The very best form of self defence is to never get into a trouble situation in the first place!
Remember: If you are going out anywhere, then ensure you have a fully charged phone and that people you trust know exactly where and when you are going and when you should be back.
Let them know when you are back.
Known trouble spots
This is so obvious, that no-one seems to understand it.
If a Bar / Club is well known for trouble, then why the hell would you want to go there? Find somewhere else for your nights out.
Make sure that all your doors are locked when driving.
If you are taking a Cab then ASK the Driver to take you to the door and wait till you are inside before leaving and ensure you have also booked a cab home.
Ensure that people know where you are and when you are expected back.
Trust your instincts
Your gut reaction is usually correct.
If somewhere just does not “feel” right, then leave and go somewhere else.
The same is true with a confrontation.
If it feels wrong, then it is.
I know many well trained people who have lost due to the fact it “felt wrong” to fight and they ignored their instincts and were subsequently beaten.
Even though, they possessed much better skills and were definitely the favourite for the job.
How to get out of the Fight
Obviously, if you can escape without fighting that is the ideal solution to any confrontation. The scenarios are endless but the principles required can be narrowed down to a simple few.
Basically this narrows down to only two scenarios. You either talk someone up or talk someone down.
If you have the looks and demeanour of a concert violinist who has suffered dramatic weight loss, then it would not be a good idea to challenge a bully!
If you know you have the edge mentally then you may be able to just face up the antagonist and the situation will not develop.
There are inherent dangers in all of the above:
When do you use which one?
What happens if I get it wrong?
Well, if you get it wrong, you will know soon enough, because you will be fighting!
If someone is in your face, you may feel it necessary to push them away forcefully whilst simultaneously using verbal reasoning to get your point across, be that a challenge or a get lost or a leave me alone!
Either way, if it does not succeed first time, then the odds of you fighting have gone through the roof!
Don’t risk doing it a second time.
We have all had a situation whereby someone just talking to us “feels” too close, because they are invading our space.
This is very true when it comes to matters of self defence, you MUST NOT allow the aggressor to get too close to you.
If he gets too close, he will hit you – ACTION BEATS REACTION!
The above statement is so true when it comes to Self Defense and DISTANCE.
Basically it really does boil down to the following simple and easy to follow things.
If a place is a known trouble spot – do not go
If you must go for some strange reason – and for some other strange reason you are alone – ensure people know where you are and when you should contact them. Have a plan for no contact by a certain time.
Keep vigilant without being paranoid.
Keep your training up to date.
We have a saying a bit like Murphys Law…. ”even Monkeys fall out of trees”.
Things can and sometimes do go wrong – so you need to be prepared for that. This is where our Physical Training is so important.
If you have a job such as Police / Security etc. then much of the above ONLY applies ”off duty”.
During working hours you are probably having to be in dangerous areas and situations.
This a whole new subject of its own.
REMEMBER: Most people can go their whole Adult life without a single incident. Do not be paranoid – but do not be complacent either!
The following Video Clip gives some more great information on this subject: